Wednesday, July 30, 2008
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Friday, July 18, 2008
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Monday, July 14, 2008
Trying to Get Pregnant - Are You Trying Too Hard?
Trying to conceive is supposed to be a natural process that is easy, at least, that is what people would lead you to think. Yet, if you have been trying to conceive for many months or even years, you may realize that having children does not come easily for everyone. In fact, each month, a woman only has a twenty to thirty percent chance of conceiving. Most women will conceive within a year of trying, but a small percentage of women will still not conceive even after a year of diligently trying.
If you have been trying to conceive for any length of time you have probably been given advice from well-meaning or not-so-well-meaning friends or family. You have likely heard the suggestion that you need to relax and stop trying so hard. Maybe you were told something like this “I knew this couple that tried for years to get pregnant and as soon as they stopped trying, they got pregnant”. Or another common statement you might here is a story about someone who finally decided to adopt and then they turned up pregnant.
Is there any truth to this? Does trying too hard really cut down your chances of conceiving? There has been much debate about the impact of stress on fertility. Some researchers believe that stress impacts fertility but it is not clear whether the infertility causes the stress or stress causes infertility. There is no question, that fertility issues can put a strain on any relationship. For a couple trying to conceive, the journey often starts out with enthusiasm and optimism. After several cycles of trying, this optimism may soon lead to despair and frustration.
Although stress may have an impact on a couple’s fertility it is more likely that stress is the result of infertility not the cause. Most couples will conceive within a year of trying. For couples who do not conceive within a year or two of trying there is almost always a physical cause for their infertility. In fact, 90% of all infertility has an identifiable physical cause. Couples will want to be evaluated by a doctor if they have been trying for over a year and have not had success at conceiving.
What about the stories of couples adopting and later becoming pregnant? Does fertility improve when you stop trying? This is simply not true. Although, it is not completely unheard of for a woman to get pregnant after adopting the statistics do not show any improvement in fertility. The percentage of women getting pregnant after adopting is about 5 percent, which is the same as women who have infertility and do not adopt. (source: www.resolve.org)
Can you have too much sex? Does trying too hard cut down your chances of getting pregnant? Women only have a short period of time when they are fertile. Having sex frequently during this period of time will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Most experts recommend having sex at least every other day during a woman’s fertile period. It was once suggested that men with low sperm counts abstain from sex prior to ovulation to increase their sperm count. However, recent studies have not shown that abstaining improves sperm count. In fact In men with low sperm counts, the researchers found the volume of semen increased after prolonged abstinence, but the quality got gradually worse the longer the men held back."
The bottom line is that there is no such thing as trying too hard. The difference between a couple that conceives when trying and a couple that does not is not based on how hard they try. Implying that relaxation or not trying increases your chances of getting pregnant, only alienates couples that are trying to conceive and adds to their frustration. Exactly how do you try less when you desperately want a baby? There are no penalties for trying too hard. If you and your partner have been trying to conceive for over a year consult your doctor for fertility treatment options. Trying or not trying hard enough does not cause infertility.
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Monday, July 7, 2008
The bad news is that my levels were REALLY low. The doctor said that it doesn't look like I ovulated. I told them that my Fertility Friend chart shows that I actually ovulated a couple of days after the test. They told me to wait 7 days to see if I start. If I don't, I need to take a home pregnancy test. If that is negative, I have to take a progesterone supplement to "restart my system". After that, my dosage of Clomid will be upped to 100mg.
All in all, at least it's progress. I'm just glad that we are doing something. It's better than twiddling our thumbs waiting for it to magically happen. God helps those who help themselves. Right?
cleverly communicated by Carlia at 5:20 PM
Friday, July 4, 2008
I just wanted to take a moment to wish all of my fellow Americans a Happy 4th of July! I am so grateful to have been born into this country where I am free to think and act as I wish. I consider myself an Independence Day baby, since tomorrow is my birthday. When I was little, I thought the fireworks the day before my birthday were for me. I had TWO days of celebration! ; ) I pray that I may be able to raise a child in this country and that he/she too will always be grateful for the freedoms given to us here.
cleverly communicated by Carlia at 8:58 AM
Wednesday, July 2, 2008
cleverly communicated by Carlia at 12:34 PM
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
I guess that means it is nothing to worry about, but it definitely has me thinking...Could that, in combination with my extremely sore breasts, be a sign of pregnancy? Is it too soon to test? My Fertility Friend chart says that I ovulated on Cycle Day 13, but I think it was more like Cycle Day 19. I am now on Cycle Day 24.
What do you think?
Have any of you ever experienced that kind of pain?
cleverly communicated by Carlia at 3:38 PM