Monday, January 31, 2011

It Takes 2 to Tango

i knew things were going too smoothly.  well, we've known this was a possibility for a few weeks, but we were crossing our fingers and praying that it wouldn't actually happen.  this past week it became official.

B and i are separating for a year...not by choice, of course!  his job needs him on a project in rhode island for the next year.  if i weren't working, going to school, running my photography business, and pursuing fertility treatments, i'd go with him, but with things the way they are...well, ya gotta do whatcha gotta do.  this is a huge sacrifice, especially since we're trying to get preggo, but it's also a great opportunity for him to fast-track his way into management.  besides, with the economy the way it is, if he says no, someone else will say yes and that would make him expendable.  so, in an effort to secure his position and provide for our family, he said yes and is currently looking for housing near providence.

how does this affect our TTC, you ask?  well, we're going to do all we can before he has to leave, but after that, he'll just have to fly home for procedures.  his boss somehow knows we're TTC (he doesn't remember saying anything about it) and told him that they understand this is a huge sacrifice, especially with us working on a baby, so they'll be flexible with his schedule and if he needs to fly home for anything, that would be fine.  of course he'll already be flying home on weekends (or me flying up there), so we'll at least get some time together, but it's kind of hard to make a baby when there's 8 hours of driving between you.

5 comments:

Do I Have to Be a D.I.N.K.? said...

Wow - Sounds like a great career move but a sucky TTC move! I am sure you guys will make it work!

~*Andrea*~ said...

As hard as it will be, it sounds like it's a great opportunity for B's future career plans. Sean and I were apart for around 7 months when he took a job in WA and then KS. It was hard, but I'm so thankful now because he's in a job that will offer us stability and security for years to come. It sounds like you guys will be able to see each other quite a bit, which is great! We didn't have that option and didn't see each other much, but we made it through and I think it made us stronger as a couple!

ousoonerchick said...

I'm sorry babe. Where do you guys live now? Keep fighting!

Carlia said...

thanks, everybody!

ousoonerchick - we live in maryland, so it would be a bit of a drive. good thing baltimore & providence airports are both hubs for southwest airlines, so flights between the two are super cheap. there's my silver lining! ;)

SHILLIG4FAMILY said...

totally unrelated but I've always wanted to go to RI!
I'm happy with your outlook, way to stay positive

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