Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Donna Reed, I am Not

please don't judge me, donna
when i decided to become a stay-at-home mom, i have to admit that i had delusions of perfection. i thought, "my house will always be spotless", "i'll prepare gourmet meals every night, even if i'm the only one there to eat them", and "i'll get up early and fix my hair and put on make-up every day".

bahahahahahaha!

in reality, my house is strewn about with toys, shoes, burp cloths, and dirt. there is a massive pile of laundry calling screaming my name. i have at least 5 DIY projects sitting around in partial completion. my hair is pulled back in a pony-tail and my make-up is non-existent.


my good intentions of being productive in the mornings are thwarted by my in ability to go to bed early. "night-owl" seems to be the category i was born into. i stay up late every night, spending time on the computer (mostly working on my blog and other social media outlets) and trying to cross things off my to-do list. why i can't seem to finish a project during daylight hours is beyond me.

i constantly over-commit myself to good intentions. i intend to go for an early morning run on the treadmill every day. i intend to go to bed with a spotless house every night. i intend to finish a project a day. i intend to be a perfect mom/wife/housekeeper/blogger/photographer/designer/daughter/friend...

so, it all boils down to one question: how do i do it all and still do it well?

this seems like a great topic for discussion. tell me, how do you do it all?

12 comments:

Fiona aka DRMama said...

How do I do it all? Firstly, I don't. I am working at home so I spend my day working on the computer, around the school and caring for Alidia. Work also includes making the school lunch everyday so I only end up having the energy to make a nice home-cooked dinner for Anthony and I about 4 or 5 times a week. Other nights we eat out, order take out or have left overs. Other chores I do around here include laundry (diapers every 2 days), dishes, and a few other little chores but my dirty little secret... we have a cleaning lady once a week and she rocks my world. She does a lot of our laundry (not diapers), cleans the bathrooms, sweeps, mops, windexes, and more. She is such a huge help but even then, I still feel like I always have things that need doing and endless to do lists waiting to be checked off. I also end up on my computer late at night, blogging, reading, and often doing work I couldn't get done while Alidia was awake in the day. Multitasking is always happening (like right now for example, I am nursing Alidia as I write this). My job with the school does mean I get dressed and put a little make up on pretty much everyday but not always first thing in the morning. None of us can do it all... and that is just fine! :)

Do I Have to Be a D.I.N.K.? said...

No one does it all! You do what you can and just focus on that cute little boy of yours!

Stephanie said...

Easy, I don't do it all! My house is full of toys, there are usually dishes in the sink, the bed is rarely made, I bet my piles of dirty clothes puts yours to shame! If you learn any tricks on how to accomplish it all, I'm all ears! Or maybe we can win the lottery and pay someone to clean our house, cook, etc.

3 Bed, 2 Bath, 1 Baby said...

I organize myto-dos by nap times. Nap one is my runnIng time and I shower. Nap two, I pick a few things to clean. Nap three is for me, I do nothing!

Bridget said...

nothing gets done at my house! LOL I thought I would have time to get things done, house cleaned, dinner cooked and I'm lucky if I get myself dressed every day!

~Rian said...

Yeah...I don't do it all either. My son's crib is full of clothes that need to be put away, there are dishes in the sink and my daughter's toys are everywhere. I have been doing the SAHM thing for 2 1/2 years now and I still can't figure out how to get it all done!

SLESE1014 said...

I was never one to think I was going to be able to be Mrs. Cleaver. I certainly don't wear pearls while cleaning....although I always thought it would be funny to try one day.

My house is not in perfect condition, but it's not a complete disaster. I clean one room a day, or skip a day or two and clean a couple of rooms.

I don't make gourmet meals, but I do try for healthy meals. I do my best to not leave dishes in the sink and run the dishwasher every other day when I clean all the bottles from feedings. I do have to wash my pump supplies twice a day because I don't have enough to get me through all of my pumpings.

I also take days like today where I don't really do much of anything except cuddle with my little girl. It won't be long before she's moving so I want to enjoy a little cuddle time when I can get it.

If you figure out how to make everything perfect, let me know....I had low expectations of my self so I haven't been disappointed.

GOOD LUCK!

Dandelion Breeze said...

Great question... but impossible :) I also wanted to be the perfect everything after our daughter was born... then soon realized it was impossible - still trying 3.5 years later to let go of my ideal :)) xoxo

TheUrbanUmbrella said...

This made me laugh, you're so funny and witty. I think lots of mums can relate to you!!
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Elizabeth :: Bébé Suisse said...

How do you do it all and still do it well? That's easy. Just change your expectations!

Sheryl said...

Ha--you don't. It's impossible. I like the answer above though; change your expectations. That is something I've had to do with all sorts of life changes. Expect different things at different times. When you get it figured out let me know--k?

Emma said...

Hi! I'm here from ICLW. I have the same visions of how things will go if I ever get to be a stay at home mom. Being on maternity leave for the last two months quickly made me realize that everyone will be lucky to have clean clothes at the beginning of the week :)

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