i grew up in a pretty strict household - loving, but strict. we were allowed to watch TV, but only for an hour before we did homework or on saturdays until 10am, when our chores began. we got a good talking to before we went into a store, so that we knew what our mom's expectations were of us (ie. no asking for things). our language was monitored, restricting "bad words", some of which now sound silly (shut up, idiot, crap, sexy, and butt were all taboo!). our time on the phone had a 30 minute limit (obviously, pre-call-waiting...i'm dating myself) that was regularly enforced. movies above a G rating were pre-screened by our parents for inappropriate content. basically, we lived in a bubble. ;)
the world is a vastly different place than it was when i was a child, though. i want to raise mack similarly to how i was raised, but adapted to this day and age. i want him to know right from wrong, the value of hard work, the importance of surrounding himself with people that bring out the best in him, and confidence to aim high, but i don't want to overly-shelter him. how can i raise mack in a safe, clean environment while still keeping him aware of the world?
10 ways to keep the house rated G and it had some great tips.
#4: limit screen time particularly stood out to me. when we were growing up, we spent so much time playing outside. i have the best memories of following my older brother around, out building forts, catching/skinning snakes (i grew up in the country, if you can't tell), and climbing trees. it was a great way to grow up actively, fostering our imagination, and constantly learning. TV and video games just weren't important to us and i worry that mack will be drawn in by technological entertainment and have no desire to do anything else.
there are a lot of other great rules to live by in that article, but i think it all boils down to #10: lead by example. i have to be a consistent mother, showing him the way, and not telling him "do as i do, not as i say."
i know it's easy to say all of this without having done it yet, but it's good to have a game plan, right?