Thursday, May 24, 2012

A Family-Friendly Life

i grew up in a pretty strict household - loving, but strict. we were allowed to watch TV, but only for an hour before we did homework or on saturdays until 10am, when our chores began. we got a good talking to before we went into a store, so that we knew what our mom's expectations were of us (ie. no asking for things). our language was monitored, restricting "bad words", some of which now sound silly (shut up, idiot, crap, sexy, and butt were all taboo!). our time on the phone had a 30 minute limit (obviously, pre-call-waiting...i'm dating myself) that was regularly enforced. movies above a G rating were pre-screened by our parents for inappropriate content. basically, we lived in a bubble. ;)

the world is a vastly different place than it was when i was a child, though. i want to raise mack similarly to how i was raised, but adapted to this day and age. i want him to know right from wrong, the value of hard work, the importance of surrounding himself with people that bring out the best in him, and confidence to aim high, but i don't want to overly-shelter him. how can i raise mack in a safe, clean environment while still keeping him aware of the world?

i recently read an article called 10 ways to keep the house rated G and it had some great tips.

#4: limit screen time particularly stood out to me. when we were growing up, we spent so much time playing outside. i have the best memories of following my older brother around, out building forts, catching/skinning snakes (i grew up in the country, if you can't tell), and climbing trees. it was a great way to grow up actively, fostering our imagination, and constantly learning. TV and video games just weren't important to us and i worry that mack will be drawn in by technological entertainment and have no desire to do anything else.

there are a lot of other great rules to live by in that article, but i think it all boils down to #10: lead by example. i have to be a consistent mother, showing him the way, and not telling him "do as i do, not as i say."

i know it's easy to say all of this without having done it yet, but it's good to have a game plan, right?

6 comments:

Kristen Seuberling said...

I love the idea of raising kids in a safe, strict, loving environment. Out tv time was really limited too, and I thought it was crazy how much tv my peers watched! Definitely how I want to raise my kids as well.

Maria said...

ahh, i love this. the teaching through example. showing mack the way. thank you for sharing all you do, carlia. i feel like i come to your page and instantly know, i'm going to learn something and be inspired.
you made me laugh with the off limits words. isn't it funny to look back. i remember being yelled out for calling my brother a butthead. i find myself using it often even at almost 30. usually, when Steve is being one. ;)

i hope you and your loves are enjoying the night <3
xoxox
maria

Dandelion Breeze said...

So true... you are an amazing mum and I'm sure you'll lead by beautiful example :) xoxo

SLESE1014 said...

the obvious swear words were out in my family but the F word we got in trouble for was FART! I've learned to curb my language around Raegan and we use the word toot quite often...

I hope to raise Raegan with a lot of the same values I was raised with. My husband and I were just talking about this and how Raegan will never know what a typewriter is. Something as simple as that amazes me. I really hope I can lead by example and when she's on the move we can get out and enjoy things, museums and the zoo and anything out of the house. Growing up we came home from school, and had to do our homework before we could go out and play and had to be home by dinner. We were allowed to watch family shows before bath and bed time.

The list is nice and definitely takes things into account our parents never had to even think about. My family didn't even have a VCR until I was in jr high, let alone video games or computers.

Thanks for sharing...definitely gives us something to think about.

Kayla & Joshua said...

Totally! Best game plan ever! I think it's funny becuase grandma and papa do NOT seem like that type now. lol They are very laid back and "chill" hahah i remember grandma got onto me once for how I ate with my fork. She thinks there is only ONE way to eat with it. hahah

Bridget said...

Your upbringing sounds like mine :) These are all good tips!

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