Monday, July 16, 2012

Selfless Love

friday is our 10th wedding anniversary and, since this is such a milestone year, i thought it would be fun to celebrate with a week of love! all week i'll be posting true love stories, the kind that touch your heart and lift your soul. :)

today's story is all about B's parents, a story of selflessness, devotion, and endless love...

M (B's dad) and D (B's mom) met in college. it was a whirlwind romance that quickly led them to the alter, where they promised to stand by each other, support each other, and love each other for time and all eternity, not only in this mortal existence, but stretching into time unknown.

their love endured many adventures, like finishing school, raising 7 children (including 2 back-to-back sets of twins), serving in various unpaid capacities for our church (including serving as mission president in california), and traveling the world.

i met them for the first time at the airport in salt lake city. they were returning home from teaching english in china for 2 years, though it was their second time out there. B and i were already engaged (neither of us met each other's parents until after we were already engaged. weird, huh?), so, after the initial introductions and hugs, the first thing his mom said to me was, "how can i help?"

that was D in a nutshell, immediately accepting, eager to give service, and quick to love with her whole heart. i loved her back just as quickly. she was a kindred spirit, it seemed. she and i could talk for hours about everything and nothing. we would sit on her bed, watching old movies, and crocheting, just enjoying spending time together while B and M were out playing golf. her company was easy and relaxed. she was a perfect mother-in-law and i loved her like a second mother.
i had the chance to shoot M & D while on our trip to UT

i had less than a year with her before she got sick. it was cancer and, though it didn't take her life, it stole her away just the same.

after surgery to remove the tumor, the chemo was delayed in being given. her immune system, not knowing that the cancer was gone, went haywire, attacking her nervous system. the chemo finally stopped the internal battle, but not before it left her in a semi-vegetative state. her muscle control was nearly wiped out, also affecting her speech, which came out in difficult breaths that were hard to decipher. almost entirely paralyzed from head to toe, but mentally the same, she became trapped inside her own body.

thus began their most difficult adventure of all. M was adamant that he would care for D himself, refusing to put her in a nursing home or some other facility (not that anyone encouraged him to).

this was in 2003. so, for the past 9 years, he has fed her, combed her hair, dressed her, bathed her, helped her with her daily physical therapy, cleaned up after her, and carried her...all without expecting anything in return. M's life is one of sacrifice, service, and devotion. his is an example that i can only describe as christ-like.

the love that M and D have for one another is beyond measure. the way he sits and talks to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how much he loves her, is filled with sincerity...and the way she looks back at him, offering a few breathy words, speaks volumes.

theirs is a story of true love.

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23 comments:

Stephanie said...

Wow, what an amazing love story!!! I can only hope JJ takes care of me like that down the road if needed. They look so happy together and you sound very lucky to have such wonderful in laws. I'm sure I'll say it again before Friday, but happy anniversary!!

Kristen Seuberling said...

What a lovely story! This couple sounds incredible, and I am glad that you and your husband are able to look to them as role models.

Kay Maher said...

It is amazing what true love will make us capable of. Your FIL is a wonderful man. They have truly found love.

Shannon said...

Story gave me chills. I can't wait to read all about love this week! :)

Ten years is amazeballs. Congrats to you and your sweetie!

Bridget said...

Beautiful. Just beautiful. I have goosebumps. Congrats on 10 years!!

Aimee said...

way to get me to almost cry :( what a touching love story. i can only hope my love will continue to grow as much as theirs have.

Sheryl said...

This makes me cry! I love the picture of B's parents. What a wonderful example of love and patience!

AJ said...

Congratulations on 10 years!! That is wonderful!!

Do I Have to Be a D.I.N.K.? said...

yes - that is true love! It totally made me cry!

drunnermom said...

beautiful story :) happy anniversary a few days early! hope you have something special planned.

I am around all week if you want to walk in the afternoon (supposed to cool down by weds. i think)

D

Jenny said...

Oh my goodness, my eyes were filling up with tears reading this. Such an amazing example of true love and sacrifice. Thank you so much for sharing this and 10 years...so exciting, congrats!!

Maria said...

this made me cry. happy tears. what a beautiful and emotional story of such selfless and genuine love. and that photo - so sweet!
you really captured their love, carlia!
thank you so much for sharing this story. i'm looking forward to reading more and wishing you and b a wonderful ten year anniversary!!

have a great day. <3
xoxox
maria

Rebecca said...

How absolutely beautiful. You made me cry. That kind of love is incredible. Thank you for sharing.

Valerie said...

Just incredible. What a perfect example of selfless love. Looking forward to reading even more this week!

danae marie said...

Wow. Maybe true love is possible. :) I'm not sure if I'm a true believer in romance, but this kind of love is something I could risk the rest of my life for, it's real and beautiful. Thanks for sharing such a inspiring story, and for following my blog!

Baylee said...

OMG. I should not have read that here at work. I've definitely got some tears. That is such an amazing story.

Baylee said...

PS: Congrats on your 10 years! Amazing!

mare ball said...

This is the best example of love, to see commitment like this. How touching and sweet. I pray my husband and I can attain this. Thanks for sharing.

Andrea said...

Wow. What a beautiful couple. They seem to be the definition of true, committed love. Incredible. Happy 10 years to you and B!

3 Bed, 2 Bath, 1 Baby said...

Beautiful story!!

SHILLIG4FAMILY said...

Oh I just cried. So sweet. We all only hope if something like this happened to us our mate would care for us so.
BEAUTIFUL photo.

Fiona aka DRMama said...

Wow... chills, goosebumps, tears... the works. What an absolutely beautiful love story. I hope Anthony and I have such amazing love for each other so many years down the road. Looking forward to other love stories to come this week.... and a early happy anniversary to you!!! :)

SLESE1014 said...

Wiping the tears away...what a beautiful story of love. To have someone who is there for you no matter what....amazing...And M is amazing for doing everything for D.

It is a true story of inspiration for all....thanks for sharing...

Happy Anniversary Week!

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